Soul searching—or the idea of nourishing your soul—is an important exercise every person can and should partake in. Simply put, it’s the desire to look more deeply for meaning in your life, says Kelley Kitely, LCSW, a Chicago social worker and best-selling author of MY self: An Autobiography of Survival. “Most people engage in soul searching (or should) when life seems out of sync, or when they’re in a rut, experiencing negative feelings towards their careers or relationships” she explains. But if you don’t know where to start—or exactly what to do—try following these expert-recommended tips to nourish your soul and find that deeper meaning in your everyday existence.
Spend some time alone.
“Taking a moment to put yourself first is not selfish—it actually allows you to replenish and be present in the moment for others,” says LaQuista Erinna, LCSW, a New Jersey social worker. Try touring a local attraction, going for a stroll in the park, or sitting down with your journal to really give yourself some “me” time to recognize what you’re missing.
Then, connect with new people.
“Strike up a conversation with someone in line at the grocery store, say hello to the cashier, or warmly smile at a stranger,” suggests Erinna. “While technology and social media have connected us to family, friends, and celebrities, we still crave that human connection. “Being kind or friendly to a stranger will make you feel good inside,” and help you get back in sync with yourself by seeing yourself reflected through someone else’s yes.
But, disconnect with social media.
Equally important to the soul-nourishing equation is to spend time away from your besties—at least digitally speaking. “Be present in the here and now: ignore social media, log out of your apps, and turn off your notifications for at least an hour a day,” advises Dominic Gaziano, MD, a Chicago-based internist. We know you’ve heard this one before, but it can’t be overstated how helpful this step can be.
Partake in a spiritual practice.
Keep in mind that the word “spiritual” is not necessarily equated with any kind of religious practice, but rather one that’s from within. Dr. Nancy Mramor, a Pittsburgh psychotherapist, recommends taking up meditation in your soul-searching journey. “It changes the brain, nervous system and mood,” she says.
Try a new hobby.
Maybe meditation falls into this one, but it could be anything really—try your hand at painting, writing, or even just power walking. “Do what brings you joy—creative endeavors particularly encouraged,” says Dr. Mramor. “Any activity that puts you in the state of flow where you lose track of time and space and get lost in your bliss will nourish you.”